Fair Warning
This post may seem scattered, and ranty. That is because it is.
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S. There is a young airman who comes home with my husband every night for dinner. That is every night of the week. Whether Rhapsody has cooperated and let me make dinner in peace, or if I had to babysit earlier and was running behind and had to moby wrap Rhaps to feed her whilst cooking dinner for three grown men. Now this young airman, shall we call him G, is kind of... well... arrogant. I know this about him. Today my husband says, "So G thinks that being a stay at home mom can't be considered a 'real' job." Me, "What?" Hubby, "Yeah, he says stay at home mom's don't do enough to be considered working." My response? "Let him come say that to my face and we'll see who doesn't get a nice home-cooked meal for the entirety of his tour in England..." I mean. FOR REAL!?!? I had 'heard' of such thoughts before, but I thought they were behind us in the 21st Century. I wouldn't say that ANY mom's job, be she stay at home, blue collar, or white collar, wasn't good enough! However, as much as I have tried to ignore it, the stay at home mom is still looked down upon. Especially as a military wife (you know, just living off of your husband's guaranteed paycheck!) I get it when I run into kids parent's that I used to work with. "So when are you going back to the Youth Center?" "Oh, I've decided to be a stay at home mom for now. I'm really enjoying being there for my child." Que long pause... "Well that's nice..." Yeah. You are right. IT IS nice. I love it! I'm going back to school, handling ALL household chores, paying bills, taking care of my child. It's not always amazing. I get tired. ALOT. And sometimes, I want to go back to work. To get a BREAK from my responsibilities as 24/7 'mom'. Not that going back to work would make life any easier. You see, here's the thing. Going back to work would be a completely different kind of busy and stress. I honestly don't think you can begin to compare the difference between the go to work mom, and the work at home mom. I think it is very wrong to compare them in fact. All comparing does is make the opposing person feel bad about themselves as a wife and parent. And we live in a society that already does enough to try and bring every woman down to the level of dirt. Us mom's, working and stay at home, need to support one another for our decision. Because here's the thing, no matter what our profession is, we are sacrificing ourselves for the sake of our children. Going to work you sacrifice the time you would spend with your child to provide for your family. Staying at home you sacrifice the extra income that could be had if you worked. These are just the two most obvious sacrifices as well! There are so many that we mom's make every day to make sure our children grow up with everything they need to be successful. So before you ridicule another woman for her decision, think first about her SACRIFICES. We can all only do the best that we can. No one should ever look down upon you for what is YOUR idea of best.
And next time a G tells you that you aren't good enough, or your husband, tell them, "NO FOOD FOR YOU!"
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